Fear and perfection getting in you way? Take a small leap, you won’t regret it.

20130923-Man-Jumping-Off-CliffSo this is my first post on this site.  It is going to be short and sweet, and it is not going to be my best piece of writing.  I have had the website up and running for over a month now.  And I have not posted once.  I have 4 draft posts waiting.  Not one of them is completed.  An old habit of mine has been kicking in.  Here’s how it usually goes.

1.  I have an awesome idea.  Seriously, I come up with some good ones.

2. I get started.  Who wouldn’t love to hear about this/learn about this/have one of those?

3. It doesn’t look exactly the way I pictured it.  It isn’t perfect.  The fear starts to kick in.  Who’s going to want that?  They can get that anywhere!  It isn’t ___________ enough!

4. The idea goes onto the list.  The list of things that I have not finished due to perfectionism and fear.

Luckily, over the course of the last few years I have done a lot of research on this and have discovered that the best way to get over the fear is to just do it anyway.  There is no magic wand that will make it feel easier or less scary.  And even if your worst fears come true (someone will make hateful comments! they will hate me! they will tell everyone that my website sucks and no one will ever hire me!) they won’t kill you.

And so, here it is.  The completely imperfect, not amazing, but hopefully useful to someone first post on the Oasis For Change website.  The good news is, there’s so much room for improvement!  Now that the ball is rolling I can get over my fear and start posting all of the goodies that I’ve been hoarding in my draft folder.

Is something holding you back from moving forward on a project?  You are 1000 times more likely to make a step in the right direction when you tell someone about it.  Test this theory.  Post your comments below! Tell us what the project is and what step you will take in the next week to get moving.  I will make every effort to reply to all comments.

If you’re like, “Whoa, this is so awesome, I wish there was more!” You can read some of the posts I’ve written in the past on my Blog called Find Your Joy.

Author: Mary Preston, LMFT

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach. Through dealing with my own anxiety and attention difficulties over the years I have discovered many useful practices and tools to help regain focus, shift my attention to what's important and to stay organized enough to get the life that I want. In my practice I work primarily with women and children with Anxiety, ADHD and Depression and I share what I've learned to get them back on track to living a full, purpose filled life.

2 thoughts on “Fear and perfection getting in you way? Take a small leap, you won’t regret it.”

    1. Andrew, awesome to connect with like minds! Any project you have in mind that you can take a step on this week? We’d love to hear it!

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