You can feel however you want, whenever you want. Nothing is holding you back.

Be your own dictionary of fulfillment. One feeling. Your world. Go.” – Danielle LaPorte

When setting my intentions and meditation for the day, I now include choosing my Core Desired Feelings. Danielle LaPorte has changed how I view about goal setting and really, life in general. It is worth your while to read her books The Firestarter Sessions and The Desire Map. She also has tons of worksheets on refining your Core Desired Feelings, free on her website, such as this one. I will give you a brief description on what it is and how to begin using them in your daily journal.


Basically, you are choosing how you want to feel during the day. This sounds deceptively simple, but will really change the way you view the goals you have chosen for your life. Let’s do a little exercise. Think of one of those goals you have been working on for a while. Maybe you want to lose 10 pounds or you want to exercise more or eat healthier. These are great! You may even have them written down somewhere as SMART goals (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely). So why haven’t you met this goal yet? Often we forget the most important part of the goal, which is the why. Why do you want to lose 10 pounds? Why do you want to exercise more or eat healthier? We miss a very important step. We want to attain these goals because ultimately we are hoping we will feel a certain way. This is the truth for every single goal.
So take that goal you thought of before and think about how meeting that goal will make you feel. Let’s take the example of losing 10 pounds. Why do you want to lose 10 pounds? Because I will look better in my clothes. Why do you want to look better in your clothes? So that I look good. Why do you want to look good? So I can feel beautiful. Boom. You want to feel beautiful. This helps you for two reasons. The first is that when you are looking at a piece of cake you can think to yourself, will this make me lose those ten pounds so I can feel beautiful? It will help you decide if you want the piece of cake or not. The other reason it is great, is because you don’t have to wait to lose 10 pounds to feel beautiful. You can do something this very minute to feel beautiful. You can put a clip in your hair, put on some lipstick, sit up straighter in your chair. My friend Kitty Cavalier has tons of tips in her blog that will make you feel beautiful just reading them.
I have added the Core Desired Feelings to my daily journal because I want to intentionally set how I want to feel during the day. Over time mine have morphed into these six recurring: Joyful, Free, Clear, Connected, Supported and Energized. Just reading those words put me in a better mood. No matter what happens in my day, whatever what comes my way, I can change my circumstances to feel my Core Desired Feelings. I want you to get to a place where you can, too.
Check out this journal workbook I have put together for you.

Spirituality for the Easily Distracted Fillable Form

Tell me in the comments section, how do you want to feel?

Author: Mary Preston, LMFT

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach. Through dealing with my own anxiety and attention difficulties over the years I have discovered many useful practices and tools to help regain focus, shift my attention to what’s important and to stay organized enough to get the life that I want. In my practice I work primarily with women and children with Anxiety, ADHD and Depression and I share what I’ve learned to get them back on track to living a full, purpose filled life.

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