I am watching Marie TV and she is interviewing Susan Cain, the author of “Quiet.” She mentioned that she used to be terrified of speaking publicly, but she knew that in order to get her message out, she would need to get over her fear. So for a year she embarked on what she called her “Year of Speaking Dangerously,” and it is amazing to me how just the right article/video/advice will come to you when you are looking for it. I just yesterday mentioned to a few of my girlfriends that one of my goals for 2014 was to talk to more people. I just started my busines, Oasis For Change, this year (I offer Life Coaching and Individual, Family, Child and Group Counseling services) and I now am at a point where I have to spread the message that my services are available. For an introvert, this can be frightening. When I think about networking the gremlins in my head start the negative talk. “They’ll laugh at you,” “They will think you are dumb,” “They will not understand what you are saying,” “They will think your business is stupid and that you don’t have anything to offer them.” The voices can be pretty brutal. I am lucky that I don’t have a fear of public speaking. I don’t mind getting up in front of a crowd anymore, which is a huge blessing. I worked through that in college with a public speaking class. I do, however, have a fear of small talk, both with people in person and on the phone. And this is not helpful when it comes to making connections for your business.
Susan Cain talks to Marie about how she trained herself over the course of a year to speak in front of others. She started small, talking in front of small, familiar groups and working her way to larger groups. I am dedicating myself in 2014 to something similar, but instead of speaking publicly, although I will continue to practice this, I will begin to talk to everyone. People at the library, at the grocery store, at the gym, I will make small talk with the grocery store clerks.
Cute Website Article
How about you? Do you struggle with small talk? Do you need to work on connections this year? Let me know below if you will be joining me this year for a Year of Speaking Dangerously!!