How to eat healthy when your partner doesn’t really give a sh**

It’s February, so of course we’re talking relationships.  But, we’re not going to tell you how to fix yours.  We’re talking about how to eat healthy when you and your partner have different health, fitness, or weight goals.  Listen in as Keysa Amaro and I interview our friend Myia Ritchie.  Our tips are listed below!

-Side note:  I don’t really give my husband the credit he is due in how his health has changed so much in the last couple of years.  I meant to talk about that in this podcast, but it’s hard to get everything in you want to say!  So, I want to give a shout out to Nathan who has lost a ton of weight (as guys do, by basically just being happier, walking the dogs, and eating home-cooked meals) and is so much healthier.  He has been a huge support and, once I started paying attention, a role model for me as well.

5 tips

  1. Know your Protocol: Know what you allow yourself to eat.  Be very clear on this, and don’t make excuses like “just this once”.  Make sure there is no wiggle room and remember your commitment to your weight loss goals.
  2. Communication: Communicate your weight loss and nutrition goals to your partner. Explain to them why you are eating what you eat, and how it is helping you reach your health and nutrition goals. Ask them if they have any questions about what you eat to clarify any confusion.  Telling your partner and people close to you what and why you are eating what you eat will give them to opportunity to be supportive.    
  3. Exceptions: Plan ahead your exceptions at least 24 hours ahead of time.  Be specific in what you will be eating and quantity. You can listen to our podcast Episode #3 about planning ahead, and use Mary’s “Drink Plan” to help you plan out your plan for drinking or eating dessert or an off protocol food.  
  4. Work Together: Look for restaurants that support both of your gastric needs, maybe your partner wants steak and mashed potatoes with extra cheese, or fish and chips.  Search for a place that has steak as well as salads, or fish and chips as well as grilled fish and vegetables.
  5. Just Say No: Don’t be afraid to say “no thank you” to foods your partner offers you.  Remember, you are not responsible for their feelings.  You are responsible for your own thoughts and feelings. And you do not need to people please. Be truthful and if you do not want to eat the food, then do not eat it…period.

    Keysa Hale, Health Coach

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Author: Mary Preston, LMFT

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach. Through dealing with my own anxiety and attention difficulties over the years I have discovered many useful practices and tools to help regain focus, shift my attention to what's important and to stay organized enough to get the life that I want. In my practice I work primarily with women and children with Anxiety, ADHD and Depression and I share what I've learned to get them back on track to living a full, purpose filled life.

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