Hello! I’m Mary Preston, and I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist as well as a life coach. I live in Loveland, CO with my husband, Nathan, my two fur-babies, and more sewing equipment than should fit into a 1-bedroom apartment.
I work with women who feel tired, depressed, lonely and anxious. I often work with women who are feeling lost in their marriages, unsure of what happened to their life and career goals.
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the states of Hawaii, North Carolina and Colorado
- 15 years of experience working with children, marriages, and families
- 5 years of experience coaching women to believe in themselves, strengthen boundaries, and give less fucks
WHY I DO WHAT I DO
I originally became a therapist for the reason so many helping professionals do, because of our childhood. I was the middle child and the peacekeeper. I had lots of practice in helping other people feel better, so I figured that’s what I should keep doing, and I floated along, following a career path that I hadn’t completely thought out.
Then, at the age of 25, after years of feeling numb, lost, and sad for what seemed like no reason, I fumbled with my phone while I was driving home to call my insurance company and asked about seeing a therapist. Nothing in particular was WRONG, but I didn’t want to go home. Something definitely wasn’t right.
I went to my first therapy session. The poor guy who saw me was obviously new to the job and didn’t know how to handle my blubbering and the lack of actual words coming out of my mouth. It didn’t really matter because I just needed to start talking. And once I started, I could barely stop. I talked about finances, about my dog needing expensive surgery, about my boring job, about not feeling fulfilled, and about my marriage. I didn’t realize it until then, but I hadn’t been telling anyone the truth about how sad and scared I was. I hadn’t even been honest with myself.
From that session, I learned that I needed to take time for myself and focus on self-care. I was referred to a psychiatrist, who diagnosed me with anxiety and ADHD and I began taking an anti-depressant. I’m not sure the medication ever necessarily worked for me, but looking back, I realize that it was the first time that I started doing something to make ME feel better. I didn’t want to continue to take meds, so I started researching other ways to alleviate the symptoms of depression and anxiety and help me focus better.
And that’s where my life really began. I found ways to start feeling better. I researched meditation, exercise, nutrition, spirituality, getting out in nature, and finding connection in your community. I have never stopped researching. I’m slightly obsessed.
I thought for a few years that I was going to have to quit doing therapy and start life coaching, because I was feeling so magnetized to the coaching profession. Then, in a “duh” epiphany moment, I realized I could do both. They go hand in hand. So, I go into a physical office 4 days a week to work with clients and their families in a group therapy setting at Heart Centered Counseling, and from my home I create worksheets, podcasts, and groups and work one on one with clients interested in learning, practicing and maintaining skills specific to a goal.
HOW WE CAN WORK TOGETHER
Check out my Work With Me page to schedule a free 15 minute consultation or sign up for one of the packages that I offer.
FUN, MISCELLANEOUS FACTS
- I have a foul mouth. I would say I can’t help it, but I work with kids all the time and have not once cursed in front of them. So I guess I can help it, but I don’t really want to.
- I have 3 sisters and 2 brothers. One of our favorite games to play when I was a kid is the Spoon Game. Our significant others all share similar distressing memories of being “forced” to play this game with the family.
- My husband and I moved to Hawaii in 2002 after graduating from college and realizing we had absolutely no plan for what to do next. Getting our Masters degrees in paradise seemed like a logical solution. We packed a few suitcases. We brought some clothes. But more importantly we packed: our VCR, the DVD player, a huge book full of our DVDs and CDs, the Playstation 2, and a bottle of Cristal champagne. We flew first class, one way.
- In Hawaii I wanted to get in better shape so 2 of my coworkers and I joined a 6-man canoe paddling team, Kailua Canoe Club. The ladies I met on that team have become my best friends, even though we live far apart now.
- When I moved to Hawaii I gained 80 pounds. I was on the edge of 200 pounds when I first saw a therapist and started taking care of myself again. After years of yo-yo dieting I am finally at a comfortable weight without needing or wanting to obsess about the scale or food intake. In fact, I’ve thrown my scale away.
Thanks for visiting my “About” page! If you have any other questions about me and the work that I do, feel free to email me anytime. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes:
“Nothing outside you can ever give you what you’re looking for.” -Byron Katie